Today’s BLOG topic is Balance….isn’t this the age old issue? How often do you feel pulled in too many directions—work, love relationship, family, friends, etc. What is the key to juggling it all and feeling like it is a well-balanced composition?
So my girl bosses the first question to ask is What does it mean to be well-balanced? To me, it means that you have a handle on the the various elements in your life and don't feel that your heart or mind are being pulled too hard in any direction. More often than not, you feel calm, grounded, clear-headed, and motivated.
The very first thing is to acknowledge that you are the CEO of your life. Life does not just happen to us….we happen to life.
We are the designers of our lives, and we don’t just r-e-a-c-t to life, but rather we c-r-e-a-t-e it. So step number one is accountability and responsibility in regards to the composition that is your life. Though you may think you don’t, you have the control over your life rather than your life controlling you.
Everything in life is a distinct choice that we are given. Sometimes we are headed on a path and we vigorously push ahead until we realize that our life is slightly off-kilter—that it lost its balance because we were pushing so hard in one direction that the other aspects of our life got left behind…
If there is one portion of your life that is drawing a disproportionate amount of energy, other parts of your life will undoubtedly be shortchanged. That can throw you off-balance. We have to deal with any areas that are consuming too much energy and put them in perspective, in alignment with all the other parts of our lives. Imagine walking a tight rope or the balance beam like in gymnastics. If you are feeling a pull too far in one direction, you get wobbly and you try to regain your balance, but chances are—you will fall. There is no doubt that creating and maintaining that balance is no easy task!
Sometimes, we are weighed down with what we think is a necessary routine. Working long hours at a job that feels unfulfilling, with very little sleep and little to no leisure time, or relationships that feel unhealthy, draining and not good for us. We may feel like we are all over the place, and generally out of balance. That reality doesn't have to be the norm if you truly long for something more. You probably have a dream life you aspire to. And you think that one day you will get there. But, creating this balance in your life will get you there sooner and with more clarity and focus.
Your best and most exceptional life won't look like someone else’s best life. We each have distinct needs, desires, strengths, skills, and talents that make us who we are, and for that very reason we each have different visions for our lives.
So, how do you begin the balancing act? Here are 5 ways you can begin:
1. Self-care is the first step.
Everything starts with a solid foundation. This is essential for health and well-being. As much as we know we should practice healthy habits, we often let them slip. Do you find yourself prioritizing the needs of friends and family, without remembering to make time for yourself? You need and deserve a healthy foundation in order to thrive. This means restful quality sleep, fresh and healthy rejuvenating food, consistent exercise, time in nature, and space for quiet, mindfulness, and reflection.
2. Envision what balance looks like for you.
Having a vision for your very best life that is unique to you is what will keep you on course and guide you to reach your goals. But it must be accompanied by— consistent inspired action. Once you identify your goals, and plan them into your life, you can take the inspired action to set them into motion. I’ve got a great little quiz to determine if you have the balance you want in your life. The link is below…
3. Smell the roses.
Don't neglect the joys and pleasures of life NOW. Often we can be so focused on the future, on the goal we want to achieve, that we are not truly present. We can unfortunately tune out the here and now. There are inspired moments and beauty wherever you look. Spend time with loved ones and friends who lift your spirits. Let yourself laugh. Choose relationships that invigorate, engage, and excite you rather than leaving you drained. Make time for playfulness. Be sure to incorporate joyful moments that nourish you.
4. Let it go.
Don’t consume your energy towards anger, regrets, resentment, or grudges.
Carrying around anger, resentments, and grudges slowly gnaws away at you, creating emotional and psychological stress, and even physical ailments . When you clear this baggage and let it go, you allow space within you to open and room for a better balance.
5. Schedule it ALL!
Set aside a time for each aspect of your life. Assign an appropriate time for each activity based on priority. Develop a schedule that you will stick to.
Create a distinct time for each aspect of your life. It’s not about doing everything all of the time, because that can just make you go nuts! It’s about moving back and forth between aspects of your life. Lateral movement versus only linear one-directional movement is the key.
Let me give you an example:
If you don’t have the intimate love relationship you dream of, then you need to commit to some time where you are in pursuit of it. For example, create a time where you can do some online dating or networking. Maybe make time for a new interest that may help you meet new people.
If you are in a relationship—make it a point to prioritize that relationship each week. As you all may know, I’m a huge fan of date night. Get into the habit if spending quality time to nurture and maintain that relationship.
There is no doubt that life is inherently a balancing act. We try to move ahead, pursue our passion and purpose, achieve our steadfast goals, and never lose sight of the balance we seek for all the various aspects of our lives.
Let me give you a metaphor or an image that I think explains this really well.
In my office, we are always working on lots and lots of projects, we have a tremendous amount of work to balance. What I always tell my team is to think of it all as a juggling exercise. For each project in my office, (or think of it as each aspect of your life), you have to keep the balls in the air. You don’t want any one ball to fall to the ground. So the moment you tend to one, you are throwing that ball into the air, then you have a bit of time to focus on the other ones, before you need to tend to the first one again. For example, you may go on a wonderful vacay to spend intimate time with your significant other, (that’s ball one in the air) then when you get back you will need to focus on the other aspects that have been waiting for your attention…So on and so forth.
So Girl Bosses, know that the search for balance is a life-long endeavor. We try to balance our work, our family time, and our personal moments. When one area of our lives becomes too dominant, the other parts suffer as we fail to strike that balance. Many of us stay on the endless treadmill that we think will lead us to a happiness triggered by success and achievement. But, we often find that we are running and truly getting no closer to our pursuit of happiness. Instead, we often exhaust ourselves in the process. Without balance, we feel unsteady.
For this week Boss Gals, look within yourself to understand the elements that are in need of balance in your life. To help you with that, I’ve got a great balance quiz to determine where you need to re-calibrate. Here is your link:
And remember Boss Gals: Only a life that is balanced is genuinely poised for happiness.
So find your unique balance and maintain it, because it makes all the difference in the world. And until next time, stay inspired.