Hey Bossgals, I’ve got some exciting news! I am officially a partner with Amazon!
That means that I can recommend some of my favorite items including, makeup, clothing, and interior décor on my website and you can shop my personal links!
I can’t wait to share some of my favorite things with all of you. I have already started putting some of my recent faves up, so go check them out on my Favorite Things page and tell me what you love!
There are so many reasons to love hats – uh hello, bad hair day!- but one of the main reasons I love hats is because they’re quickly becoming my favorite accessory for any kind of weather! Seriously, think about it. If you’re going to a beach day or a fun, sunny brunch, a large floppy hat is the cutest (and most practical) accessory. Or what about if you catch a baseball game with your guy or some gal pals? A Baseball cap is always in style!
Here are some of my favs and why:
The Sun Hat
As I mentioned above, sun hats are IN. They’re the favorite beach accessory among celebs and fashionistas. First of all, they’re practical as heck and they keep the sun from penetrating our beautiful skin. Secondly, they’re just freakin cute! I love a good floppy sun hat while laying out next to a pool enjoying a cocktail. Doesn’t that sound heavenly? Go get yourself a sun hat and enjoy a day by the pool- you deserve it Bossgal.
I know what you’re thinking, but hear me out. These classic hats used once only by the elite aboard large boats and yachts have recently become a big time fashion trend. Again, the large brim protects your face from harmful rays while you’re out in the sun and to be honest, they just look really cute paired with a tank and jeans or your favorite casual jumpsuit!
The Baseball Cap
Typically reserved for the men in your life to attend sporting events, the baseball cap- or “Dad hats”- have made a huge splash in the fashion world for women in the recent years. This is because they’re the perfect casual accessory. It’s easy to throw on a baseball cap with a t-shirt, jeans, and some sneakers and still look totally fashionable! Plus, if we’re being honest with ourselves here, we don’t wash our hair daily so sometimes we need something to cover our hair in between wash days.
This is a classic. The fedora was the height of fashion in the 1940s and 1950s. Businessmen around the country wore fedoras as a status symbol during that time, but fedoras have made a big splash in women’s wear over the last decade. The softness of your hair with the harsh angles of the fedora make for a perfect pairing! You can wear a fedora with a casual outfit or dress it up with heels and a maxi dress for a more semi-casual look. So cute either way!
Did you know that there is actually hat etiquette? It’s pretty interesting. Here are a few little tips next time you wear a hat:
1. It’s always proper etiquette to remove your hat when you enter inside an establishment
2. It is acceptable to tip the brim of your hat toward a person as a “hello.”
3. When you remove your hat, hold it in your hand so the lining of the hat is not visable.
4. If your hat has any ornamentation—feathers, pins, etc.—men should always have it on the left side of the hat. For women, the ornament should be on the right side of the hat.
Even though hats are so big right now in the fashion industry, they’re still considered too casual for a workplace. So it is still considered proper etiquette to remove a hat once you arrive at a business setting office or meeting, even if it’s an “indoor hat.” Sorry Bossgals. But save your cute and stylish hats for social gatherings or day outings! Bottom line: hats are making a comeback in a big way right now and I am here for it! What’s your favorite hat style?
In today’s technological world, there are so many awesome advancements that help us stay connected to each other and the outside world. However since we can be fully bogged down with our digital world, we often miss out on some of life’s treasures hidden in the simple acts like reading a paperback or hardcover bound book, making tea, writing a hand-written letter (OMG remember getting those?), and calling someone instead of texting. These things all seem to be lost arts in today’s world, but I thought we might try bringing them back.
First of all, I want to say that Kindles and ipads are great! I use my iPad for reading and it’s an awesome way to read on an airplane, or long car ride, etc. But the thing about Kindles or ipads is that they hold literally thousands of books. So that in itself is distracting! I don’t know about you, but I’ll hear of a book recommendation, download it, then forget about it. The beauty of reading an actual “in your hands, turn the pages,” kind of book— is that the focus is entirely on one book, one story, allowing our minds to be immersed in the content, and just for one small moment, live in a fantasy world that is all our own. There is something to be said about hitting “pause” on electronics and enjoying the solitude of being immersed in an exciting story without gadgetry.
I know this sounds kind of strange, so hear me out. Making tea used to be a part of everyday life for many Europeans and Americans alike. And in Japan, tea making is literally an art form which has its own ceremony. It speaks to a zen mindset and being fully in the moment. We as Americans tend to always be “on the go.” I know I am, you? We’re grabbing our coffee from Starbucks and continuing our day. But the art of making tea is a process. Letting the tea seep before you drink it, enjoying every sip, and just taking 20 mins out of every day to just enjoy the drink and take a break. 20 mins. We all have 20 mins to set aside for ourselves every day. It’s important to take a mental and emotional rest and spend a few minutes quietly sipping tea or enjoying a 20 minute chat with a friend who can join you for tea. And if you get a beautiful tea pot to actually brew your own tea…then oh my, the art just went up a notch!
Writing a Letter
There is still something so special about receiving a hand-written letter in the mail, don’t you think? When is the last time you received one or wrote one yourself? Um…cricket cricket. I can’t even say when I have… If someone takes the time to sit down, write down their thoughts and feelings, just to mail to you…it feels so personal, doesn’t it? So next time you want to sit down and write an email to someone special, think about writing a letter instead. Guaranteed it will make more of an impact and feel so much more personal and meaningful to whomever is on the receiving end of your letter. Try it, and let me know how it goes over.
Calling Instead of Texting
Like writing a letter, calling is a much more personal touch. Nowadays with texting being the main source of communication between everyone, things like tone and intention get lost in texting. I personally know of many miscommunications that have happened simply because someone interpreted the meaning of a text incorrectly. It is probably the cause of many quarrels, wouldn’t you agree? Calling someone not only gives them a chance to hear your voice and understand your tone, but it conveys to the person that you care enough to give them 30 mins of your time to ask how they’re doing and listen to what they have to say. Try it out!
So…I think I might just have to go sit somewhere beautiful and quiet, make some tea and read my book…and then write a sweet love letter and give my besties a call! Sounds fabulous!
Until next time…
Hey Girlbosses, let’s talk grit. Grit is a trait that all successful people share—it is the ability to work hard, stay resilient in the face of adversity, and is an innate quality in all of us that allows perseverance and goal-achieving. The thing is, some people’s innate grit is just stronger than others. So I want to share some tips with you on how to become mentally stronger, and in turn more successful.
1.) Always Act As If You’re In Total Control
Ever heard the phrase, “fake it ‘til you make it”? That’s what I’m talking about! Most successful people take complete control – and accountability- for both successes and failures. If they succeed, they act like they always knew they would succeed…fake it ‘til you make it! If they fail, they don’t blame bad luck, they take control of the failure and figure out how to turn it around!
2.) Don’t Focus on Things You Can’t Do
Mental strength is a lot like muscle strength. So why waste your mental strength on things that are out of your control? Be your own change, focus on the things that you can do, not the things that you can’t do.
3.) Celebrate the Success of Others
There isn’t a finite amount of success- if someone else is successful in their endeavors, celebrate them! Many times people let the success of others dictate the measure of their success – don’t let resentment waste your mental energy! Apply that energy to your own endeavors and surround yourself with successful people for inspiration!
4.) Don’t Complain
Complaining wastes a massive amount of mental energy. It also can be toxic to your mental well being, as well as physical well being. If something isn’t going your way, channel that complaining energy into finding a solution. This will keep you mentally tough when the tough gets going!
I hope these tips have helped you put on those proverbial hard hats and strengthen your mental fortitude! And until next time, get your GRIT on!
Designing is such a creative outlet. It’s a way to express ourselves, who we are, what our tastes are, what we value, and what we find interesting that resonates with our souls. It’s no wonder I’m seriously addicted to it! And while it may seem like an easy task, to decorate a room, to design a space, or to create a welcoming environment—it can be just as easy to unintentionally botch it up!
But not to worry! I’m gathering up my best tips to make sure that your designs shine rather than fall flat. One of the biggest pitfalls that I see often is when the design is solely driven by how the end product or space will look. Yes, that is important no doubt. But—if you just create a visibly attractive space without thought to how it will be experienced and used—it will disappoint. It is rare that we walk into a space and just stand there at the door looking in on it. Spaces are not meant to just be seen from a distance. They are meant to be experienced, meant to be enjoyed, and meant to cradle us in comfort, luxury, and ease.
So how does this translate into the room’s design. First of all, make sure that the furniture you choose is comfortable. Does it feel comfortable to sit on that chair? Is the table at the right height in relation to the chair? When you sit down, do you have a spot to rest your drink?
While aesthetics are of the utmost importance…especially to me since I’m obsessed with beautiful design—you cannot ignore the fact that when we experience a space, it is not just about its beauty. It is about how it accommodates us, how it makes room for us, how it considers us in all aspects.
So be sure to pay attention to how the space will actually feel, function, and flow. When I feel like a space takes me into account, it makes me feel appreciated, thought of, and acknowledged. That is how it makes us feel that our needs are being met over and over again.
Let’s move on to the other design pitfall I see way too often. When you want to design a space, you can get caught up in the tendency to throw everything you love, every beautiful accent you have ever seen and like. This can be overindulgent and it can lead to a feeling of overwhelm and/or clutter in a space. When that happens, nothing is truly seen or appreciated. Beautiful objects need space around them to be seen more purely. So this often missed step is called “the edit,” and it is vitally important to creating a beautiful space. Once you have taken time to think about and decide on the look you are going for, stick to it and make decisions that enhance it rather than detract from it. For example, let’s say you are going for a coastal vibe—a kind of beach house look. Yes to the driftwood décor, yes to the blue coastal hues, yes to the seaside details…but do not overdo it. Simplicity can be the most beautiful vibe you create.
So let’s say you are into this coastal look but you also like glam chic. Do NOT start introducing that too. This will confuse the overall look and become a bit schizophrenic. Not every style can fit into the same room!
Once I am done designing a room, before I consider myself completely done—I go through a process I call the “essential edit.” There are usually too many items or pieces thrown into the design. And while, they may all be beautiful aesthetically pleasing—they may be adding to a sense of clutter. Well chosen pieces, carefully thought out and placed, form a better and more cohesive design than a whole lot thrown together. So be intentional and curate carefully. Determine which pieces have a bigger and more powerful impact and choose to keep those; evaluate which items are unnecessary and trivial, and filter those out in your “essential edit.”
If you look out for those two pitfalls, and you pour your creativity into your design, then you are fully on the right track. And remember, there is not just ONE perfect design for any given space. Many can work in a powerful way. So go after the one that speaks to you and makes your soul expand.
We all want to work in a field that ignites our passion, but sometimes we just don’t know where to start. How do you even know what your dream job is? Or what you are passionate about? Trust me Bossgals, I have helped so many women in the same position check their gut and explore their soul to find out what really gets their creative juices flowing!
In order to find out what you really love doing, I suggest taking some of these actionable steps…
1. Look at Your Employment History
What kinds of jobs have you had in the past? Are they all in one industry? What did you like / dislike about those experiences? You certainly don’t want to entertain a career in something that you hated! So even though you may have repeatedly taken jobs in a certain industry, it is important to evaluate if that industry itself was the right direction for you. It might seem wise to stay the course, but a pivot into a new industry can also be a much needed change if it doesn’t resonate any longer. Also, take stock in any volunteer activities you’ve participated in. If you do something for the fulfillment and joy of it without earning a paycheck, chances are you’re on the right track to finding your true passion!
2. Determine Your Purpose / Mission
Do you feel like you were put on this Earth to do _____? If so, examine that further. How can you make that happen? If you don’t feel that way, that’s ok! Think about your personal mission in life. What would you like to accomplish? Take your own values into account because they need to be aligned with your purpose. Exploring these on a deeper level is bound to get your subconscious awakened, and send the message to your brain to get some ideas formulating on what kind of jobs fit your personal purpose / mission. Sometimes this takes a little soul searching, meditation, journaling, etc. Oftentimes the first answers we give ourselves need to be evaluated a bit further and these exercises help us do just that.
3. What Are Your FavoriteSkills?
We know that skills are an ability or a mastery, but what skills are you sincerely interested in utilizing? A favorite skill is one that you are interested in and willing to use. For example, if you are skilled at your job, but you hate your job, that would notbe a favorite skill. Think about what your skills are and what you love to do using those skills!
4. Establish Your Ideal Work Environment
Visualizing your ideal work environment will give you valuable insight as to what kind of career you’re interested in. Most of us fall into a career after college and just get stuck, but is it what you envisioned when you were young? How has your vision changed? Do you like working alone? Are you a great team player that loves the collaboration with others? Are you a born leader? Do you get excited and motivated by leading a team? These kinds of questions will help guide you. Envisioning your ideal work environment is an important step to clarify your career goals and point you in the right direction!
So Bossgals, have you visualized your dream job? Are you living it? I hope so! If not, I hope this gets you on the right track! For further exercises to live out your purpose and build the career of your dreams, check out this link to my book/workbook. It is a great source for inspired change.
Until next time….
How To Take The Perfect Selfie
Hey Bossgals, we all take a few – or many- selfies. It’s the perfect way to showcase a new hairdo or just to let your friends & family see your face once in awhile! But how do you get the perfect Insta-worthy selfie? Here are my tips for the next time you want to snap the perfect pic!
1. Find Your “Good” Side
I know, I know, it sounds cliché, but it’s true! Since our faces aren’t perfectly symmetrical, everyone photographs better on one side of your face than the other. Knowing your angles and positioning the camera to accentuate your best angles is key!
Having great lighting is essential to a great selfie. If you’re a professional, you probably have some lighting equipment, but for the every day on-the-go Bossbabe, natural lighting is going to be your best friend! Either facing directly towards or at an angle with the sun is perfect. Photographers call sunrise or sunset the “golden hour” to shoot because the lighting is soft and perfect for a great pic!
3. Angles and Posing
If you don’t want a close up of your face, find a good angle / pose can be tricky! The key is to accentuate the features you want to display and hide the ones that maybe you’re not in love with. If someone’s taking a photo of you, have them try holding the camera at different angles. For posing, try a photo with one hand on your hip leaning out slightly. Maybe try posing your leg angled with your knee slightly elevated. Believe it or not, there is a science to this! Celebrities actually hire people that teach them how to pose. Practice makes perfect, so take a lot of pics with different poses at different angles and pick the one you like most!
4. Makeup Skills
Knowing how to do your makeup is important for a great selfie. There are plenty of makeup tutorials on YouTube to check out if you aren’t so confident about how to do your makeup. Use those tutorials, babes!
I know what you’re thinking…editing? Isn’t that cheating? No way! It makes your selfie look professional, like the popular influencers or models. First trick is to take a bunch of selfies, then choose your favorite. Once you’ve picked out your fav, you can use apps like Facetune to go in a softly airbrush your skin or change the color of your seflie slightly. The key is to not over do it though. Subtlety is what makes it look effortless!
Okay ladies, those are your tips for the perfect selfie. Now let me see your beautiful faces!
As a successful GirlBoss, we want to always be on our A game! The best way to stay on top both mentally and physically is to make sure that we’re keeping ourselves as healthy as we can. I have a few tips for how to maintain healthy habits while keeping up with our busy life styles!
1. Visualize the Day Ahead
Take a few minutes after you wake up to think about your day and what you would like to accomplish. Think about your to-do list and get into a productive mindset. When you get yourself into a positive and productive mindset first thing in the morning, you’re more likely to stay on the go and get all your tasks completed! I like doing this because it is also a great moment to think of one exciting thing that you will be doing. It really does not matter how small, because the effect is BIG on amping up our motivation and energy levels.
2. Drink a Glass of Water Before Every Meal
Consuming a glass of water before every meal is an easy health habit to establish…especially when you start to reap the benefits! You will notice that you’ll eat less at mealtimes, your skin will look better, and you’ll have more energy throughout the day. If you start to feel that afternoon sluggishness start to creep up, chug your water gals! Science has proven that drinking more water throughout the day not only helps with weight loss, but it also helps with your mind and your mood…guaranteed to help get you over the midday work blues. I know that for me this is a tough one…I am still trying to guzzle my water daily—getting better but certainly not enough.
3. Eat Breakfast
Remember when we were younger and our parents always told us that “breakfast was the most important meal of the day!” Turns out, they weren’t wrong. Eating a healthy breakfast gets your metabolism fired up for the day and sets the tone for making healthier meal choices throughout the rest of the day.
4. Eat More Veggies!
This is an easy one. We all know we should be eating more veggies. It’s so important for every aspect of our bodies and our minds! If you’re not a huge fan of salads or vegetables, there are still ways to sneak them in there. A great way to sneak in some extra veggies is through smoothies! Add to your blender things like spinach, kale, and celery paired with some delicious berries and fruits to hide the taste. It’s so easy and so delicious! I’m a big salad lover so, that is typically my go-to. And, I’m always in search of new and exciting salad recipes so share your fave with me in the comments!
5. Get in Daily Movement
You don’t have to be a “gym rat” to establish this healthy habit. Just 30 minutes a day is all you need! It can be something as small as walking your dogs daily, but make sure you’re getting up and MOVING. Daily exercise can decrease your chances for serious health problems later on, while also boosting your mood and productivity! It’s a win-win.
There you have it BossGals! Try some of my healthy habits and let me know if they’re working for you! And as always, if you’ve got some winning tips—share with us all in the comments below!
Are you feeling a bit sleepy? Being sleep-deprived is one of the worst feelings ever! It can get in the way of living our very best life. It can make us cranky, inattentive, and lacking the energy that a BossGal needs.
The benefits of a good night’s sleep are beyond valuable as we try to be at our peak performance in all that we do. With great rest, we feel refreshed and we have sharper cognitive skills. Our skin is brighter, our mood upbeat, and our immune system performs better. But sometimes we don’t know howto get there…how exactly do we get the beauty sleep we so desperately need? Trust me, I struggle with this like crazy! Sometimes I feel like insomnia is my middle name! So, I’ve got a few tips (some I have tried and others I heard about) on how to have the best and most luxurious sleep from now on so you can tackle your days with the gusto and drive of a true Girlboss!
1. Silk pillowcases:
Last Friday I mentioned in my post that I was trying out a silk pillowcase. I had heard a lot of hype about its benefits which include less hair breakage and better skin. So—always on a mission to find the most luxurious, but also most effective products, I put those pillowcases to the test. Well here is my review. And remember, this is NOT an ad, NOT a collaboration. It is just my obsessive curiosity and wanting to share my thoughts with you.
Well I can definitely say “WOW!” The hype is for real. So, not only did the pillowcase feel fabulous on my skin, but I could see the difference between it and my previous cotton one by the very next morning. Let’s talk hair….Now usually I wake up with serious bedhead. Frizzy, crazy hair that looks more like hay than silky smooth hair. And, side note—so does Jeff! Well the morning after trying these pillowcases, my hair (and Jeff’s) was WAY under control and not a rat’s nest at all! And now, after using these pillowcases for a week, I can honestly say that it has consistently been that way. For sure, there is less breakage.
Now let’s talk skin…having used the pillowcase, I can absolutely tell that my face is clearer. Before, I would always get these dry patches that just wouldn’t go away. Usually they were on my nose or chin. Well…NO MORE! Throughout this past week, I have seen less irritated skin, and no breakouts! Crazy right? I think it is probably because I am a fitful sleeper, with lots of tossing and turning, and the cotton pillowcases are more abrasive than the silk.
So I give silk pillowcases a 10+ score! I am definitely a believer! Just make sure that you get 100% mulberry silk. Not a silky satin—that is not the same thing. There are lots of sources out there to buy them. I will leave a link here for the ones I bought after price checking around.
Side note: I think using an alkaline detergent tends to break down the silk, so I’m using a soft detergent and washing on a delicate cycle or by hand.
Now, let me share some other tips for that Girlboss beauty sleep we all crave:
2. Luxury Sleepwear:
If you’re looking for luxury sleep, try investing in some silk pajamas. This type of sleepwear doesn’t just feel comfy, it wicks moisture off the body and prevents that hot and sticky wake up in the middle of the night. Plus silk has a softness that is just so conducive to falling asleep.
3. Aromatherapy in a diffuser:
With lots of stress in our lives, getting that luxury sleep can be a toughie. One great way to provide some relief is to use essential oils in a diffuser for some wonderful aromatherapy. Smells like lavender, jasmine, and ylang-ylang have long been used as sleep aids, and the advent of essential oils has made this an even better option for many sleepers. Lavender, which happens to be my favorite scent, is especially powerful, and in some cases can even trigger the body to produce the sleep-inducing hormone, melatonin, to create a better sleep experience. Who knew! I like to put lavender and cedar wood oils into my diffuser. The combination not only smells spa-like and luxurious, bu the cedar wood is also known to induce sleep.
4. Sleep Mask:
Sleep masks have been used for years (seriously, you probably remember your mom using one back in the day, right?) and they can be a real benefit to the whole sleep experience. I personally have not tried this, but many BossGals that I know vouch for this! A sleep mask made of silk is a great way to keep harmful light from penetrating your eyes and disrupting your sleep.
5. Splurge on Organic Sheets:
While there are all kinds of microfibers that you can experiment with, check out organic luxury sheets for a luxury sleep experience. Look for organic Egyptian cotton, cashmere, or any other natural, not-overly-processed fiber to both breathe well and wick moisture. While any fiber can essentially be made into a microfiber, these will often have a 400-800 thread count and be in the 100-200 dollar range. Sure, this might be a little more pricey than other sheets that you find online, but if you want healthy, luxurious sleep, go ahead and splurge! These sheets will stand the test of time, are sustainably sourced, and just feel better.
6. Luxury Mattress:
Okay, here’s the big one…the large ticket item. But hear me out….a good mattress is crucial in achieving good back health. For someone with chronic back and neck pain, trust me on this one! Finding the right mattress that will give you a great night’s sleep involves getting both the right support as well as the right comfort level. If your mattress doesn’t provide you with the right support for your body, it will cause poor sleeping posture, which leads to back pain the next morning. If a mattress doesn’t meet your personal preferences then your comfort is compromised, resulting in interrupted sleep that can leave you feeling tired and sore in the morning. When it comes to good health – don’t cut corners! No bed will last forever, but when you invest in one that is made of high quality materials and can offer you the support you need, you’ll be sure to get your money’s worth. A $2000 dollar mattress will cost 55c per night over 10 years or 28c each if with a partner. But, definitely do your research and I recommend going to a store where you can test them out. No…you can’t sleep there overnight, but actually some companies offer a 30 day trial period.
So don’t skimp on your sleep ladies! Invest in yourself and your sleep because health is wealth! And Beauty sleep…well that is priceless!