What's Your Fashion Style?

What are you wearing? And NO…I’m not asking like a creepy stalker….

Fashion has so many varying styles. And when we wear what feels right to us, what makes us feel not only comfortable but beautiful, our fashion style can make us feel empowered, confident, and ready to tackle whatever comes our way. And that is ultra-important for a Girl Boss. Right?


Studies have actually shown that when you wear clothes that you really like and feel good in, that good ol’ dopamine is triggered and released into your system, giving a feeling of happiness. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter which transmits signals between other nerve cells in our brains. It’s also referred to as the “feel good hormone.”  It’s crazy to think that this dopamine release occurs when we experience sex, food….and now we can add fabulous fashion to the list?! Not bad ladies, right?


Maybe Vera Wang said it best, “A woman is never sexier than when she is comfortable in her clothes.”


That rush you get when your fave clothes are on and you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror…YUP it’s real. Well that got me to thinking about how important it is to develop our very own sense of personal style. A style that gives us that rush of dopamine, bold confidence, and unique Girlboss drive.


So…I’ve come up with seven distinct fashion styles. These refer mostly to our business attire. Not so much about our weekend wear or going out style. These are girlboss business looks. As you listen, figure out which one best describes you?


Let’s jump right in!




                This style is kind of retro. It is all about looking back to different styles from the past, and carrying them over to today. It can be an assortment of looks that pull from 1920’s-1970’s fashion. Think of 50’s dresses, pinup fashion or flapper style clothes.  (Katie Perry, Betsy Johnson)



                Boho is short for bohemian. This style is heavily inspired by the hippie gypsy, free spirit lifestyle. It is a carefree flowy look that defies structure and tradition. It’s about beading, embroidered jackets and denim, flowy tiered skirts, and ethnic touches of jewelry. The clothing companies, Free People and Anthropologie have really nailed this style. (Kate Hudson, Sienna Miller, Nicole Ritchie)




                This fashion style stands for sophisticated chic. It’s all about smart, sophisticated elegance. The word chic comes from French meaning elegance and skill. It is on point with trends and the latest fashion. It evokes a sense of empowerment and business savvy. It looks smart and classy. It is usually well-tailored and striking. Think of Blake Lively in the movie, “A simple favor.” (Kerry Washington, Amal Clooney, Meghan Markel, Blake Lively)



                An Artsy style is usually completely untraditional. It is about a very independent and personal flair of creativity. This style does not typically follow any trendy fashion, but rather is an expression of creative energy. It is usually flamboyant, colorful, and full of life. It can be innovative and interesting. It is for those who are art lovers, firm believers in self-expression, and those who find their fashion sense by thinking out of the box.



CAZH is short for Casual. It is the fusing of stylishness with comfort. In millennial circles, this is the style of choice. It is a simple fashion sense without the frills or bold accents of other trends. It is usually a smaller palette of colors and wardrobe pieces. This style detests an uncomfortable look, putting comfort as a high priority. This is a “keep it simple” approach to business wear. Think of the Gap or white, black, or grey t-shirts, maybe with a cardigan or loose sweater. Add booties, and you are good to go. (Mila Kunis or Kourtney Kardashian)



This style is all about expressing a rocker, rebellious look. Some of the staples for this fashion style are torn jeans, vintage band t-shirts, and a leather jacket. The clothes are not baggy, but rather snug and form fitting. They are worn with attitude. It is edgy, kind of badass, and a bit on the fringe. The common staples would be black skinny jeans (ripped of course), studded black ankle boots, and a black leather motorcycle jacket. (Gwen Stefani)



The word preppy comes from preparatory or prep school. It is a collegiate look with staples like collared shirts, khaki pants or skirts, and loafers. It is rather conservative and conventional, and never loud or uniquely expressive. It tends to be classic and tailored. It began from the east coast prep schools and much of their uniforms. As this style evolved, certain pieces were retained from that look. (La Coste, Ralph Lauren, and J. Crew definitely embody this preppy style.)



So girlbosses those are my seven style categories. Which one defines you? Does one embody your fashion look? Is it Vintage, or Boho. Maybe it’s sophi chic, or artsy. Cazh, rocker girl, or preppy? Share which one defines your stylish look by leaving me a comment. And post a pic on instagram with your business style. Make sure to hashtag it #mygirlbossstyle, and I’ll be looking for it!


For me, when it comes to my business attire, I’d say I’m the SOPHI CHIC. And when I wear that style, yes I do feel empowered and confident. I feel every ounce of my confident stride!


So ladies, remember that your style speaks volumes about who you are, without saying a word.


And for my wrap up quote I’m going to one of the kings of fashion.

Marc Jacobs says,

"To me, clothing is a form of self-expression - there are hints about who you are in what you wear."


So bossgals…wear it well! Until next time, stay inspired, rock your fashion style, and keep on crushin’ it.



What's In Your Handbag?

Today’s topic is something many of us love even more than our clothes and our shoes. It’s something that we spend hard earned money on. It’s something that can reflect our character, personality, style, and status. It can be elegant, sporty, or classic. No ladies, it’s not our cars. Though we do enjoy a beautiful and reliable car, men in general are known to obsess more about cars than us gals.  So what is it, you ask?


It’s the all important and ever-present HANDBAG.

Why are we so obsessed with purses? Why do we value them so much?


Truthfully, beyond their practicality and functionality, handbags have taken a life of their own. With all the handbag designers out there, purses have become an accessory that speaks to our status, our style, our fashion sense, and our earning power. And with more and more women becoming successful girlbosses, the handbag has become a reflection of our confidence, stability, and financial independence. And for those reasons, women can often splurge on just the right handbag.


I read a quote that made me laugh this week about handbags:

“My biggest fear is that when I die, my husband will sell all my bags for what I told him they cost!”


This got me to thinking….where did the notion of a handbag even come from? When did it all begin? Did you know that even before the 17th century, men and women carried bags? They go way way back—all the way to the 14th century.  I thought this was quite interesting…the reason for handbags can be traced to the fact that pockets within clothing had not been developed yet. So, to carry around coins and other valuables, men and women used small pouches. If you were to look at Egyptian hieroglyphics, you would most likely see illustrations of men and women carrying waist pouches (kind of like primitive fanny packs!) like ‘em or not…they’ve been around for centuries!


People of all classes (especially the working class) utilized functional messenger bags, and for the elite, specialized bags were designed with hidden compartments. These were made for the aristocracy, and quickly became symbols of status and wealth.


Today, handbags serve all kinds of purposes, don’t they? More than anything, they are a way for us to carry our most intimate possessions and our essentials. When women jumped into the workforce rather than predominantly staying at home, handbags became our most important accessory. Women had to find a way to make their necessary belongings portable, and thus we have the handbag.


In the urban jungle, our handbags become our vital tool kit, our survival pack in a way. In fact, when we don’t have our bag with us, we can feel a bit naked right? Or at the very least we feel uncomfortable and ill-prepared. And let me tell you Boss Gals, all sorts of things make their way into our handbags….we’ve got our phones, makeup, keys, money, credit cards, books, tampons, gum—you name it!


Not only do we utilize our handbag as our utility pack, but it displays a flash of personality, and our outward expression of luxury and style that sets us apart. Handbags serve a very real purpose, and then they go above and beyond as they make their very own stylish and often bold statement.


And if you really think about it, handbags protect our privacy. Who wants to walk around with tampons, money, etc. all out in the open for everybody to see? We are able to be discreet and private with our belongings while creating a fabulous fashion statement that reflects our personal image.


While I absolutely love me a fabulous handbag…I’ll tell you what I don’t like…what is literally my biggest pet peeve. It is rummaging around in a big old handbag. You know what I’m talking about, right ladies? It’s like we dig and dig to find something we know is in there…isn’t that completely infuriating? And what’s worse, is if you still don’t find it, and you’ve broken a nail in the process! Ugh!


So..now that we have determined that a handbag is a true MUST for every boss gal….let’s talk about what goes inside it.  What are the essentials you keep in your handbag?

Here’s what you will find in my handbag ladies:


1.       My cell phone. This is a must for most of us. I’m no exception. That is literally a lifeline to my family, my friends, my honey, my work, and my google where I can look up anything at a moments notice.

2.       A mini makeup bag with the essentials (concealer, eye liner, lipstick and gloss, eyelash glue, and setting powder or spray, nail file)

3.       A mini brush or hair pick. You never know when your hair will need a bit of freshening up.

4.       Tissues. Whether you need them because of allergies or a teary-eyed moment, they always come in handy!

5.       A phone charger.

6.       A hair tie. When it gets hot, I have got to put my hair up!

7.       Hand sanitizer. I also keep one in my car. Maybe that makes me a germaphobe!

8.       A mini notebook or sketch pad and pen. My mind is always racing and coming up with ideas or thoughts I want to remember.

9.       A wallet (pretty much as fabulous as the handbag itself!)

10.   A little wristlet. I use this for my allergy cards, business cards etc. And there are times when I don’t want to take my whole handbag with me, so I throw some cash into this and I’ve got a mini clutch!

11.   Feminine product ie. Tampon

12.   Pill box with antacid, ibuprofen, allergy pill…and my Epi-pen.

13.   Allergy cards

14.   Business cards

15.   Cali’s leash


Ok, with all those “essentials” it’s no wonder we can end up doing the dreaded digging in the handbag. I say a big NO to that Boss gal. The solution for a clutter-free hand bag is several smaller pouches inside the bag. For example, one for makeup, another for meds, another for the pen, business and allergy cards. You get the point. It is much easier to pull out a few pouches rather than the endless rummaging through lots of individual items.


And then lastly Boss Gals, you all know how much I love clutter-free zones. So, make it a habit to de-clutter your handbag regularly.  Clear out those receipts, the chewing gum wrappers, the completed to-do lists etc. An organized and clutter-fee bag is always more efficient; and if there is one thing a Girlboss must be—is efficient!


So my friends, I’ll leave you with a quote from a departed true Girl Boss, Kate Spade:

“Springtime in New York is walking hand-in-hand with the bag you love.”


Alright my beauties, treasure your handbag, stay inspired, and keep on crushin’ it!

Chuck That Paper Pile!

Paper…paper…paper! Don’t you sometimes feel like you are drowning in papers…that pile of papers that is at your house somewhere …or everywhere! And it’s probably at the office too, right? It seems like we are inundated with mail, ads, invoices, invites, cards, flyers, bills, correspondence, on and on it goes.


For me, being clutter-free is an avid and constant goal. But it takes work Bossgals!  Without a system in place or some very steadfast habits, it can rack up a frighteningly tall stack. Am I right?


And don’t think I’m getting on your case ladies, because it is NOT your fault. We are inundated; we are flooded, and it becomes a never-ending battle.  I do remember years ago that one of my best girlfriends used to say that she could never find that pile o’ papers anywhere in my house. And in all honesty, I don’t think I really have it there. But I’ll tell you where I do….my problem zone is at the office!


I’ve been thinking about how it is that in my home I can be truly clutter-free, but why am I not carrying that over into my office space? Well here is what I came up with. At home, I have a kind of system that I use, which keeps the pile low or non-existent. But clearly I am not using that system at work.


I thought it might be helpful to share with you what I do, and I’ve made a personal resolution to put it in place at my office too.  So here goes Girlbosses:


The first step is to look carefully at your big old pile. Where are most of the papers coming from? Are they bills? Is it mail and ads? Is it kids’ school paperwork and teacher flyers? Once you determine what the real clutter culprit is, then you can take the steps necessary to squash it.  If it is bills let’s say, maybe you could go paperless and handle all the bills online. This definitely promotes a more clutter-free environment. Just be sure that you will still get notifications and reminders for when you need to pay so you don’t accidentally get a late fee.  By going paperless, you’ve decreased the mail you get, and you can just keep record of it in a file on your computer, so there’s no need to file the papers which also takes up space.


Is your stack of papers loaded up with magazines or newspapers? For many of us, we get subscriptions by the dozens, but we may not even have the time to read them all. Does that sound like you? For those clutter culprits, try canceling the subscriptions that you just aren’t getting to on a regular basis.


And what about the mailers, the ads, the junk mail that grows and grows? I have one rule when I open my mail. The stack of mail must ALL be dealt with. No re-creating another pile. And let me tell you Bossgal, you’ve got to be super tough with yourself to achieve this. No excuses, ok? I call it “ONE and DONE.” You only get to look at it, and touch that paper once. If not what usually happens is we look, we aren’t certain what to do with it, so we put it back down into the same pile. No no no! One and done ladies! Because as busy women going after our dreams, who has the time to look at it, put it back into a pile, and then look at it again another time?


So—if it is something I don’t need or won’t use, then to the trash it goes! If it is something I may need in the near future, I put it in a file and immediately it goes in the file cabinet. I have always found the file cabinet to be a great way to organize and keep stuff off counters and not out in the open.


Now for the Mamas out there—what to do about the kids’ artwork. Here is my suggestion. If you like to hang it up on the fridge or on a wall, be choosy. Don’t over-clutter it. Keep it simple and go sparingly. If it is something you want to remember, take a photo of it with your phone. And then to the cloud it goes! And then you are free to throw the original out.


What about those invites to events, parties, and grand openings? When those come in the mail—here’s what I do. If I want to display it, then I do on a magnet board or something. If not, right when I open them, I take a picture of it on my phone so I will have all the details such as the address, time of the event etc. and I put it into my calendar right then too. It’s even super helpful to put into your calendar “buy gift,” etc. a few days before.


And there you have my tricks Boss babes. So, I’m going to ask that you give this a try for three weeks. Just see how it goes. Promise me you will give it a true shot. If you absolutely hate these tricks, then you can always go back to the paper pile. But maybe, just maybe it will be the beginning of a clutter-free space. Wouldn’t that be nice?


And for sure, if you come up with some other tips…please share! Because we can always learn from and support each other. And if you’re got another girlboss that you think would love the topics we chat about here, send her a link to this podcast or blog. Because the more bossgals we can support, the bigger our circle becomes, and the stronger we all are.


I’m definitely committed to doing this clutter-free system at work, which is something that I haven’t always done. I’m becoming a pro at it in my home, probably because that is my sanctuary, my peaceful hideaway, my retreat. But it is time for this Bossgal to put it to work in the office too.


Until next time, remember to stay inspired and keep on crushin’ it!



Post-Production Let Down

Have you ever felt kind of blue after a big event that you had planned or were looking forward to?


Two weekends ago was my daughter’s wedding. There was so much planning for a whole year. There were decisions to be made at every turn. Then there was scheduling and coordinating. It was an all-consuming endeavor that is for sure!


And let me tell you, it went off without a hitch. I am so thankful that Marlea was able to have the wedding of her dreams. She and her new husband, Paul  were beaming the entire wedding weekend.

And I was too!


So why is it that once it was over, I felt the blues? I should have been relishing the wonderful moments, great memories that were made, and basking in the glow of a beautiful event that everyone fully enjoyed.


Well Boss gals, I’ll tell you why! It’s called post-production let down syndrome, and let me tell you the struggle is real!


After exciting life events, especially the biggies, we can often fall into some small bouts of depression. It’s like the “high” of the event (meaning the high adrenaline, the high emotional state, the excitement and anticipation) then dramatically drops off to feeling empty and sensing a sad void. We are left kind of lost without the next exciting thing to get amped up about.


Studies have shown that there is a biological reason for the blues that hit after a big event. When we have been stressed or when we have been kind of amped up, our bodies create a lot of cortisol which is the stress hormone. So after the event there is a sudden drop in cortisol from our bloodstream and that can give us a big let down. We’ve been cranking up our adrenaline, and now abruptly it is gone! It is the same for two other chemicals in our bodies that amp up when we are happy. The dopamine and serotonin peaks during joyous events. But, post-event is when the levels drop and return to normal.


The emotional and psychological reason that we get the blues after something big happens in our lives is what is called “the contrast effect.” Most people critique their lives by comparing it as better or worse to what came before it. So for example, if the exciting event was a wedding…well—it was fun, exciting, celebratory, with heightened emotion. So how could our daily humdrum life even compare? Right?


In most cases, these blues are temporary. But even still they can wreak havoc with our minds and emotions. We can feel depressed, disappointed, and it can even have us questioning everything else in our lives. This can lead to a sudden downward spiral unless you know how to handle it well.


The thing is, it’s not really possible to sustain that kind of “high,” that elated feeling when things are intensified.  At some point, we need to come back down to a renewed sense of equilibrium.


But here is the interesting part Boss Gals. This does not just happen after some big life event like a wedding. It can even happen if you’ve even working long and hard on a work deadline, pouring in extra hours and feeling the heightened stress or intensity of the project and meeting that deadline.


In my architecture practice, I work on a design for weeks, and then prepare it for a schematic design presentation. We do renderings, a color board, material samples….it’s a big deal. And there is that high from creating something you feel proud of, that gets you excited. After the presentation, I used to get kind of bummed out. I felt that post production let down all too often.


So what are some good techniques to coping with this post production let down?


I have found that typically after expending that much energy, that much time, and effort—we typically need a bit of a rest period. Maybe you’ve been working on a deadline and losing sleep. Our emotional state gets a bit convoluted and off-kilter when we lack sleep. So first before anything else, indulge in a little extra R and R. (Rest and relaxation). Indulge in a nap, or going to bed early if you can.


Secondly, indulge in a massage! When we are stressed our body holds a lot of toxins in our muscles. We are also flooded with cortisol the stress hormone. Releasing the tension in your muscles, breathing out the worry and anxiety, and re-aligning your mind and body can do wonders.


And then, find a new bit of excitement to look forward to. So for the wedding example, a friend of mine told me a great tip. She said that typically when the wedding is over, the bride can get serious post- production let-down. It’s all over and there is a feeling of emptiness. So….

Plan a post-wedding dinner party for friends. You will keep some of the celebration going, and it’s a great opportunity to use all the kitchen essentials you just received as gifts.  But I will caution you not to just dive into this without first taking a breather, and getting some sleep and r and r. Without that, you will just be on a cortisol treadmill and that’s no good!


And for the boss Gals killin’ it at work, when you complete a deadline, take a breather and then figure out what your next endeavor will be. Challenge yourself and stay motivated. Because jumping into a new project or a new goal (after you’ve rested up of course) may be the best way to kick the blues to the curb my friends!






Hop On the Struggle Bus To Exercise Town, Ladies!

Why do we really need to exercise?  The benefits of exercise go well beyond maintaining weight and weight loss. It’s not just about looking good or fitting into those skinny jeans!


It is about so MUCH more!


Ok, let’s be brutally honest…Does the word ‘exercise’ make you kind of cringe? Do you put it off as long as you possibly can, coming up with excuse after excuse to avoid it?


Chances are, unless you are an avid athlete or a devoted workout fiend, you are probably groaning about the idea of exercise…am I right? And know that you are NOT alone! 80% of Americans are not achieving the Federal Government’s recommendation of 2.5 hours of exercise per week. Uh oh! Are we getting lazy?


I think that the entire notion of “working out” feels burdensome, time-consuming, and difficult to fit into our very busy lives. But—what if I could give you a way to exercise without cutting into your daily activities at all! Wouldn’t that be fantastic?


I have a surefire EASY way to incorporate your exercise essentials into your day without taking time away from all your other obligations, your work, family, or your pass times. You are probably wondering, “what is she talking about…that’s not even possible.”


But trust me…it is! But first let me explain why we should even exercise at all. How important is it really?


Your body was not meant to be stagnant and idle. It was designed for movement, for walking, running, dancing, etc.   The problem is that while technology has continued to advance, the need for us to really move our bodies has plummeted. Most of us do not walk to work; we drive. Many kids are not outside playing soccer, dodge ball, etc. instead many opt to play video games indoors or be engrossed in social media—both not requiring us to move our bodies all that much.


When we fail to use our muscles, they will inevitably atrophy which leads to weakness and loss of movement. This becomes a downward spiral to issues with balance, posture, and body strength. I’m sure you have heard the line, “If you don’t use it—you lose it!”  That most certainly applies to exercise.

So—in answer to the question I posed earlier…YES, exercise is vitally important!



Your Mind needs exercise.

Exercise is not just a benefit for our bodies—our minds reap the rewards as well. With exercise, your blood flow to your brain increases and it stimulates the brain mass in the hippocampus. This area of your brain is critical for memory retention and for reducing dementia.


And you have probably heard about those happiness-creating endorphins which are released when you exercise. Endorphins can powerfully affect your mental and emotional health and well-being as they stave off symptoms of depression or overall anxiety.


Your Bones need the exercise.

When we fail to exercise our bones start to lose mass and they become thin and frail. This leads to an increased possibility of fractures and falls. For this reason, staying active and using some weight resistance even if they are very light, helps to maintain bone health.




Your Heart and Lungs thrive on exercise.

Doing any form of cardiovascular exercise, requires your heart and lungs to provide oxygen to the muscles. This makes the heart pump faster so that it can delivers that oxygen to your cells. All this dilates your veins and arteries and keeps them from building any unhealthy plaque or any clots.


When you regularly exercise, your lungs increase their capacity so that you build your stamina and don’t get out of breath. Cardiovascular exercise is critical for the prevention of strokes and other forms of heart disease.


Ok….so I think we can agree that exercise is important and vital for our health and well-being. And we need both of those in order to achieve our goals, live happy lives, and be our very best both at home and at work. But, I know that life is BUSY and oh so hectic…

Stay with me…I have an innovative solution to this endless problem we face.


For me, I like exercise, but it does take a lot of motivation to get me going. So I have found over the years, that staying consistent in my exercise routine can be a struggle. But, to stay fit, stay toned, and healthy, I do the 4 essentials and I painlessly incorporate them all into my life daily. Here is how:


Essential #1: (abs and core)

Driving in my car or sitting at my desk at work, I do pelvic tilts. It is basically tucking the tailbone and pulling your hip bones up towards your navel, creating a scoop in your stomach and a curved back. Then tilting the pelvic back to beginning position. This is wonderful for the abdominals and your core. I do 25 at a time, and as many sets as I’m able. You will find that not only is it a great stretch while sitting at work, but it can make your commute to work go more quickly while also being highly efficient! For a video tutorial check this out:



Essential #2: (arms)

While I’m watching tv at night, I stand up for a while and work my arms. Usually I get restless sitting for a whole evening of tv watching. You do not have to use any weights; you can just use some resistance, of if you are like me,  I like to use little light weights (typically 3 lbs). While I’m watching tv I work my arms (bicep curls, triceps, shoulders ) etc.



Essential #3: (legs and booty)

This is an easy-to-incorporate exercise that you can do while showering and/or brushing your teeth. Every time I am conditioning my hair in the shower (and I want to leave the conditioner in for a few minutes) I do squats. Yup, you heard that right. And when I brush my teeth (morning and night) again I do squats. I promise that you can multi-task while brushing your teeth and you haven’t cut into your schedule at all!


To make sure you are using good form, check this quick tutorial:



Essential #4: (arms, core, abs, back, and chest)

While I am in tv watching mode, I also do push ups. I prefer the Pilates push-ups which really help to tighten the arm pits as well. These are usually tough to get to, but the Pilates push up sure helps! Do 10 at a time, and then rest, do more reps.

It is VERY important to have good form with these, so check out this:




So did you see how you didn’t have to carve out ANY extra time for your exercise routine? It didn’t cut into your morning, or your happy hour meeting friends, or your relaxing evening after a long day at work. Genius right?


Let me know if this works for you. I love hearing how you are putting this to good use. I promise that it is the MOST painless way to get your exercise on a regular basis. Go for it!


And I will leave you with this inspiring quote:


“We do not stop exercising because we grow old—we grow old because we stop exercising.”

-Kenneth Cooper

Life as a "Super Commuter"

Lately I have been a traveling vagabond. With our recent move to Arizona, I head out each week to California to run my Seal Beach office. So—the first week it was kind of overwhelming, and without a doubt I felt frazzled. It felt chaotic, stressful to go to the airport, get through security, handle the luggage, etc. and besides all that, I had Cali, my pup, along for the commute each and every week. So there was figuring out how to travel with her which was a whole other learning curve. Then, during my week in California, I felt like I was digging in my suitcase constantly.


Is all this sounding familiar to you? Do you travel for work on a regular basis? Well, by the second week, I was doing a bit better. I had simplified some of my travel routine, and I had a fleeting notion that “I got this!” I enjoyed spending a night at my Mom’s and catching up with her; then another night I would hang out with my daughter and her husband. And then I also had one of my best friends to visit if I was staying an additional night. It was a hint less stressful, and a hint more fun.


By week three—not so much! I caught the flu, and I was severely down for the count! Rather than staying with my Mom or my daughter, and risk getting them sick, I booked a hotel and I hunkered down there to beat the flu and try to work from there. I had to stick around to finalize some meetings that week, and let me tell you it took a MAJOR toll on me! I was exhausted, couldn’t sleep, wanted my own bed at home SO badly, and I felt miserable! I started to feel like life was beating me, and I could barely keep up. I felt like I was hanging on by a thread. And let me tell you—it was NOT pretty!


Here I am on week 4. And after several very fun and relaxing days in Arizona, I woke up ready to tackle this week with turbo speed gusto! And here is the thing—I learned a lot in the last few weeks. Not that I am an expert to this super commuter routine by any means, but I worked out the kinks, became more efficient and organized about it all, and boy have I got hacks for you!  As I keep learning the best ways to go state to state, I will share them with you Boss Gals. And please—if you have any for me, don’t hold back! Because anything we can do to help another GirlBoss out, is good for us all!


So first off-the packing. Well, the first week I was a hot mess! My luggage felt unorganized, and I had so much stuff to take back and forth. If you are like me, the cosmetic/toiletries bag is a load in and of itself, am I right?! Since I was staying one night in each place, I couldn’t really unpack and settle in. So that meant living out of that suitcase, and after one night it looked like a disheveled mess.


So here is my first hack for you…Packing cubes!


I ordered these packing cubes from amazon. Lifesaver! It came with 6 different size bags that zip up. They have mesh so the clothes breathe, and you can see what is inside. So now, I put my work clothes in one, my cozies for lounging in the eve in another, my casual clothes in another, bras and undies in another—you get the point right? It brings instant order to the suitcase, and I don’t start strewing clothes all around trying to find the item I’m looking for. You can check out the cubes I got at this:

The next thing I did is duplicate much of my toiletries. And I keep one bag for all that in my office in California. It is so great not to pack all that stuff each and every time! So, I have a curling iron and hair straightener there too. This sure helps alleviate the worry that I forgot something, and makes packing a whole lot quicker not to mention that I don’t have to stress about the 50 lb luggage weight limit! For many of the items I went with the travel size so that my toiletry bag at the office is way more compact.


Jeff had done tons of research on the best dog carrier for the plane. Cali has been such a trooper, and she has become a little jet-setter extraordinaire! The carrier he got me is fantastic, because it has wheels, can also be carried as a backpack, is compact enough to fit under the plane seat (which is pretty tricky in those smaller commuter jets!), and also doubles as a secured car seat! Cali just coasts through the airport as I wheel her around. I keep her leash in one of the zip-up pockets, and her little water bowl in the other. Have pack, will travel! You can check out the link here:

Now here is what I didn’t do right last week. Because of some re-scheduled meetings, I had to extend my stay by two days. Well, I had only brought my medicines for the exact number of days I thought I would be in California. BIG mistake! Being without those for two days was a BAD idea. For example, my blood pressure and thyroid meds are not good for me to be without, etc. Being without them for two days did a serious number on my body, and let’s just say that I won’t be doing that again! So now, I bring a whole extra week of my meds…just in case! Because, to be at our top performance, Boss Gals, we have to keep our minds and bodies strong consistently! Lesson learned!


Since I’m traveling with Cali, her carrier counts as one of my carry-ons. Well, that was a bit tough, because that meant that I couldn’t take a separate briefcase/laptop with me AND a handbag. Well, what’s a girl to do? So, by the third week, I went out to buy a bigger handbag that could fit my laptop (or in my case the oversized iPad Pro).  I typically put all my meds and jewelry in my handbag too, because I worry that they will get lost or stolen in the checked luggage. So, this handbag is roomy and I make sure that I use little pouches inside rather than throwing everything loosely in there which just causes a lot of digging around to find anything.  At first, I used one of the totes I did have, but I realized that the thin straps on most totes not only dig into your arm when so overloaded but could easily break off! Talk about an even hotter mess that would be!  So the new bag I bought has a sturdy set of handles and a shoulder strap too. That seems to be working really well! These are the little things that you don’t really realize until you are in it and struggling to make it work.


So, whether you’re a super commuter like me, or just travel for fun, I hope you can learn from my trials, errors, and successes! If you have any tips and tricks for me please comment on my Instagram, Facebook, or drop me an email!


Until next time, stay on the grind Boss Babes!

The Great Mom Juggling Act

 “The art of mothering is to teach the art of living to children.” —Elaine Heffner


With Mother’s Day approaching, I wanted to focus on the Bossgals who are juggling work and raising their kids. I know from experience that this is no easy task. It can be tough and daunting to find the time for both. For those of you who have a job that takes you away from home, you might struggle with feelings of guilt and worry. Either you feel that you should be home more, or put in more hours at work. Striking a balance is quite the challenge.

And for those moms who are entrepreneurs working from home, it can be tough to get stuff done, be productive with your work, and still tend to the need of the kiddos. Well, this was me. Throughout my kid’s childhood, I worked from home, and I can clearly remember moments that I wanted to just tear my hair out!


But…here is the good part. Sure I struggled with it all, but after years of experience, I became GREAT at it! And all the strategies and techniques I came up with back then to navigate motherhood might just help you with your juggling act.


So, here are my hacks for working from home while raising kids.


1.       First off, it is really essential to designate a work space for yourself. Just moving between the couch and the dining table is not the best approach. Set aside a space with a door that closes if possible. And that room is not a room the kids get to wander in. They have to be invited by you to hang out in there. By doing this, you will feel like you have your place to go to where you can leave your work untouched by others and all in one spot. Being ultra organized is the key to pulling off this mom/entrepreneur skill!  By designating a space, you also let your children know that this is not “their zone.” It’s Mommy’s work zone, and it is not to be touched.


2.       When my kids were babies, I would get a babysitter (usually one of the neighborhood teens) to come over during my baby’s nap time, and I would extend their time a bit after that. This can sometimes be some really good uninterrupted hours of work. I remember being able to get about 3 hours of hardcore productivity in with this suggestion. Now, this only works if the sitter and your kids know and respect that Mommy’s workspace/home office is off limits. It worked really well for me, because my entire house (bedrooms, kitchen, living, etc.) was on the first floor, and I set up my office on the smaller second floor. My kids knew not to come up the stairs. You also have to stick to the program, and not be the hovering Momma who keeps stepping in with the babysitter. Let the sitter play and be attentive with your baby, and you FOCUS on work. It definitely takes some effort and discipline.


3.       Sometimes we cannot fully separate our roles as entrepreneur and Mom. Those can be even more trying times. Let’s say you have to run some errands for work. Maybe you need to pick up something from a store, or pick up a sample, or drop some items off to a vendor. For those tasks, here’s what I did. I would plan a day of maybe 4-5 of these errands, and I would do it on a day that I was going to hang out with my kiddos. Well, we would start the day by creating a “to-do” list. If your kids cannot yet write or read, then you go ahead and do the to do list with images or icons. For example, maybe to go to the market you could use an image of a shopping cart. For going to staples, maybe a pic of pens and office supplies etc. if your kids are at reading and writing age, have them write it out in the order that you will be doing the errands. Let them know they are your co-pilot and you need their help to get it all done. They are “working” with you that day. Most kids will feel important and special knowing that they are being super helpful. Then, as you are out and about on your errand runs, ask them to let you know… “So where are we going next?” Or “What’s next on our to-do list?”

You can even give them a pen or pencil to cross them out when completed. This will keep them engaged, feeling helpful, and feeling like you and he/she are a team. This should keep them from getting bored, and encourage them to be on their best behavior.


I remember when my son Jacob was about 1-2 years old, I would take him with me to the local building department. We usually had to go there to pick up or submit blueprints for projects I was working on. Each time we went, one of the staff clerks would get all excited to see him. She would say, “Hey you!” Jacob would typically charm her every time. Well, when we needed to go again to the building department, he would say, “we re going to see the hey-you lady!” And eventually when he learned to read and write, that’s exactly what he would write on our to-do list.  To this day, as a 28 year old, he still has memories of the “hey-you” lady!


4.       I also recommend having a word that you use that let’s them know you need them to be quiet and not interrupt you while on the phone. Typically we cannot group all of our phone calls from work into a small window of time. There will inevitably be calls that you need to take while hanging out with the kids. I used the word, “client.’  My kids learned that when I said, “I’m on the phone with a client,” or I just mouthed the word ‘client’ they needed to be as quiet as possible, and let Mommy finish the call. Now, I’m not going to lie to you—this is NOT foolproof! There were plenty of times that I remember all too well when my kids were totally uncooperative, but for the most part it worked quite well. Of course, rewarding them for being helpful and cooperative is always a good strategy. I would give them a point for every client phone call where they were quiet and not interrupt. Then after they got to 5 points, they would get something special.


5.       I will add that it is essential to carve out some Mom and child time that is solely devoted to them. They cannot always feel that they come second to work. On those days, whether you have a fun routine you introduce, or you go on a fun adventure—they know that is their golden time. And they will know that you treasure it too. I remember that with Jacob we would go every week to BeniHana’s for lunch. It was our thing, and he loved sitting at the Teppan table and watching the chef perform. For Marlea, it was scheduling a “girl’s day” all about manis and pedis, doing facial masks, mud baths and spas. It still is to this day!


6.       When the kids start to grow up and get into elementary and middle school, then the issues kind of change. At that point, the kids typically want you OFF your phone, and 100% attentive to their needs because they kind of hit that “it’s all about me” stage. So here’s my valuable advice for that…


I would explain to my kids that work was not only something I loved and was good at, but that it brought in income to pay for things in our lives. So, I had a deal with them when they were about 13-17 years old. Every time I signed a new contract with a new client, I would reward each of my kids with $50. Sounds crazy right? They didn’t really do anything to earn that right? But here’s the thing, when you try this you will see that they quickly WANT you to work. They are personally invested in your success. My kids would start to ask, “are getting any new clients?” And then, when I would get the phone call from that potential client, they would say, “oh good! I’ll go in the other room to give you privacy Mom so they hire you!”


Crazy right?! Now that is a game changer!


I also made a silly deal with Jeff that for every new contract I signed, I would take him out for Margaritas—a little celebration! So now, everyone in my family circle was invested in my success! No one was complaining that I was working too much. And what that does is puts out fabulous karma and energy into the universe. Everyone is rooting for you to succeed, and typically the universe listens and  rewards.


So that’s it Boss Gals. I hope these help you to succeed at work while mothering and mentoring your babies. We mold our children by example. When you show them a solid and admirable work ethic, along with letting them see your drive and tenacity, AND while still loving them to pieces—then you are fully killin’ it Boss Gal! It’s a winning combination for everyone! And you are effectively showing your kids, boys and girls, that women can have fulfilling careers without sacrificing motherhood.


So to all the Moms out there who sacrifice, juggle, and sometimes pull their hair out,

“Stay inspired and keep on crushing it!”



Aruba Trip at the Bucuti & Tara Resort

Aruba Trip at the Bucuti & Tara Resort

For most of us Boss Gals, working our booties off is quite the norm. Isn’t it? We are busy building our careers, our families, our little empires as we strive to create our most exceptional lives. But, if we don’t also take the time out to enjoy this lifetime, to explore, and broaden our horizons, and open our eyes to the vibrant cultures surrounding us, then no matter how much we build, no matter how much we conquer, we will inevitably miss out. Traveling is essential to our growth, our expanding wisdom, and to the nourishment of our soul and spirit. As they say, it is the one thing you buy that actually makes you richer.


And so, last week this Boss Gal and my beaux did just that. We went on an adventure full of exploration, relaxation, and luxury at its finest. Jeff and I had the pleasure of visiting the island of Aruba for five glorious days, and let me just say that the #1 Romantic Caribbean resort, Bucuti and Tara, did not disappoint!



The island of Aruba, just off the coast of Venezuela, might be small in size, only 75 square miles with only 5 miles wide at its widest and 19 miles long—but it is Super-Sized when it comes to charisma, charm, natural beauty, and island hospitality. With its desert climate, Aruba’s weather is pretty much 85 degrees year-round. The white sand beaches stretch out for miles, palm trees blow in the trade winds, and the warm night air makes evening strolls a delight.



And while the scenery and island-scape are spectacular, what struck me most was the joy of the island people. It is no wonder that Aruba is called the “Happy Island.” (It’s even on their license plates!) The locals and those that work at the luxurious Bucuti and Tara are personable, hospitable, and you can hear them laughing their notorious belly-laughs throughout the day. In the U.S. we laugh, yes. We giggle, yes. But in Aruba it is a deep and hearty laugh that starts from their toes! It became music to my ears.



When Jeff and I landed in Aruba (after a flight from LAX to Miami, and then Miami to Aruba) we rented a Jeep since we knew we wanted to explore the island and see some of its rougher terrain. With our fiery red Jeep, we headed to Bucuti and Tara to check in.



And what a greeting it was!

The concierge and bell hop met us as we pulled up. Stefano, our concierge gave us a glass of champagne, and immediately escorted us up to our room for a full resort and room tour. And this was not some VIP service, this is for EVERY GUEST! Wow, right? I know!! I have to say a heartfelt thank you to Suzanne, Susan, Amie, and Mitchell for coordinating all of our accommodations. Their attention to detail was remarkable!

Suzanne & I…. Thank you Suzanne!

Suzanne & I…. Thank you Suzanne!


You’ll have to make sure that you check out my resort and room tours on instagram, because words just don’t do it justice. It’s a must see. My favorite touch was the rose petals in a heart shape on the bed awaiting us! No wonder this place is the #1 most romantic destination resort in the Caribbean!

 The bathroom showcased a beautiful shower and a small digital touch screen on the vanity mirror so that you can play music or watch tv while showering and getting ready! HOW AMAZING, right?! I am blown away by this place!!

 Oh and they give you an iPad that is yours to use during your trip with free wifi in the room, throughout the resort, and even on the beach. And of course, no detail is too small for #BucutiandTara because they even made sure the iPad had a screen greeting me with a friendly, “Welcome Karen!”

 While the room was a luxurious haven, what we saw outside our balcony was spectacular! It is that kind of to-die-for view that takes your breath away—clear blue skies, the bluest ocean, and crisp white sand! And btw- there are more chairs and lounges than guests so you never have to worry about getting a spot! No waking up at 6am to set a towel down to secure your place. Just wake up leisurely, enjoy your complimentary breakfast at their oceanfront restaurant, then head down to relaxation on the sand when you’re ready.



The resort offers different activities such as #movienightsonthebeach (they showed Martian while we were there) They also have a Wellness area with a smoothie bar so you can stop in during happy hour and get your #SmoothieMockTail.


Sitting on lounge chairs on the white sand beach, it is impossible not to relax! Our waiter on the beach, Oroville, was attentive, fun, and lively. I told him that I didn’t want to swim in the ocean for fear of sharks, and he kept saying, “Nah, no sharks here!” So from that day on, he earned the nickname Sharky.



The water was so clear and beautiful, that I did manage to swim in it a few times. When there’s no murkiness to the ocean, I don’t start to hear the Jaws theme song in my head….


Jeff and I enjoyed a much needed couples massage in the beach cabana our first day. After moving boxes and more boxes from California to Arizona the week prior, we both were in seaside heaven to get massages!  I highly recommend a couples massage as a solid transition from airport stress to island tranquility.  



The highlights for me beachside were the delectable ceviche which they serve with plantains (mouth-watering), and the distant “Whaddup!” From their pet parrot, Paco who hangs out in the outdoor bar area. I discovered that the owner had found Paco on the streets of Aruba. Apparently he had been brought to Aruba from the Rainforest of Venezuela, but had gotten separated from his family. Mr. Biemans took him to his hotel, and Paco has been with him for over 32 years! Well, let me tell you—Paco is an adorable and relentless flirt! He loves the ladies! When I went up to his cage, he walked on over, kind of showing off, and put his soft furry head to me so that I would pet him. What gal could resist that? He’s more like Paco Suave! Paco likes to mimic guests’ laughs, do a head-swerving dance to the happy hour steel drum music, and yell out his signature “Whaddup” to the guests. I will certainly miss that charming guy!

 Happy hour is a daily ritual with half priced drinks and complimentary snacks, and it is a nice gathering place for all the guests.  Whether you choose the circular bar or the lounges, you can relax and enjoy a magnificent sunset outdoors.



One day, Jeff and I set out for some serious exploration. We took the Jeep and went all the way around the island. We traveled north past the California Lighthouse where we stopped into the Faro Blanco Restaurant with its breathtaking view of the coastline. And later, we headed past that to the rocky bad-ass terrain! While the western coast of Aruba is calm waters and picturesque sunsets, the eastern coast is like a fiery Latin temper! The highways and roads end, and you rough it on dirt roads with rocky outcroppings. The ocean waves crash against the land like angry outbursts. It is a spectacular sight, full of fury and strength unlike anything I had ever seen. Every once in a while we would see another ATV tour battling the terrain,  but for the most part it was just Jeff, me, and the tempestuous sea.  We stacked some zen-like rocks which seems to be a local ritual since you see these small rocks placed in various balance-defying formations. That was quite an adventurous day!



Dinner at the Resort’s Elements restaurant was always a treat, especially because you can’t beat the view from their dining deck. I couldn’t believe how attentive to each guest their staff is. Those of you that know, I have a handful of allergies which I cannot take lightly. Well, mentioning it to them only once, it seemed like the entire staff knew and was vigilant about it for me. That is what truly sets Bucuti and Tara apart from any other resort I have visited. They know their guests, they enjoy their guests, and creating a memorable stay for their guests is priority ONE. And their guests truly appreciate that attention to detail and personal touch, which is why the resort boasts so many repeat visitors year after year.



I had the distinct pleasure of meeting the owner Mr. Biemans, a delightful man who knows the names of his entire team. He makes it a point to greet each member of his staff personally, ask how their families are, and shows them genuine care and kindness. According to one of our beachside waiters, that is why they love working there. Mr. Biemans is also environmentally conscious, bringing the first net-zero resort to the Caribbean. Bucuti and Tara is not only environmentally conscious, but recently received Silver Leed certification. Sustainability, sincerity, and outstanding service seem to be his trademark—and it shows!


Our last night, we enjoyed a private cabana dining experience at the beach. The food was to die for. The chef put together a delectable meal with unique flavors and stunning presentations that made us feel even more pampered than we already did! We watched the sunset, sipped wine, and relished every little moment.



Now as I am sitting on the plane on our return flight to the U.S. I am sad to see our experience come to an end. But, I feel like Aruba made its way into my heart. Its beauty changes you and its island joy seeps into your soul. I feel refreshed, renewed, and ever grateful for the experience and like one of their waiters, “Happy Vincent” likes to say, “Be happy, be smiley, and be romantic. They are all free!”

“Happy Vincent”

“Happy Vincent”




Life Hacks To Be More Productive

Life Hacks to be more productive


As girl bosses our to-do lists are miles long, aren’t they? I know that for me, I often feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day to accomplish everything on my list. Between running your career, your home, your relationships, and your family, it can be downright exhausting and overwhelming.


Well, over the years, I have developed some efficient strategies to get more done with less effort and in less time. And I’m going to share them all with you today. Are you ready for my proven life hacks to make you even more productive than you already are? Seriously Boss babe, these really work, and are so helpful that they are like gold.

Here we go:


Getting household chores done with ease:

Do you find yourself unable to find the time for market shopping? Who has that kind of time, right? Well, many stores (Vons, Ralphs, even Whole Foods) have a time-saving service to help you out. Go online, place your order, and they will deliver it. For you that cuts out driving time, finding parking, and

aisle by aisle shopping!


How about finding the time to tackle the shower grime? There are several new sprays out there that don’t require the labor intensive wiping down. You just spray and let it do its job. The more you can use these types of time-saving tricks, the more time you will have for those tasks that absolutely can’t be done without you.


How about the dry cleaning? I find that this one always gets pushed aside. I literally drive around with the dry cleaning for weeks before making it there. It just always seems so inconvenient. Well, there are several cleaners that offer pick up and delivery and get this….at no charge! They even sell these discount cards (I bought one for $40) with tons of discounts to use. I think I made back my $40 in the very first order! They have a set schedule where they pick up or drop off two times a week. I bring my bag to work, and they pick up and drop off there. So easy!


Banking: do you go into the branch? Not me! I am a huge fan of the mobile deposit available by most banks. What a genius idea! By using that, I hardly ever make a stop to the bank. It literally saves me a trip, parking, and standing in line for a teller. No time for that ladies!


Car maintenance: we’ve got to keep our cars in working order, but it can be tricky to fit that into the schedule, especially if you need your car pretty much all the time. So here’s what I do. I call for an appointment, and schedule a loaner vehicle. It is no charge at all. Then, I drop off my car, grab the loaner and get on with my day. No sitting around in the waiting room, no wasting time. And, on top of that, when I go pick up my car it is serviced and freshly washed too!


Prescriptions and refills. Don’t you absolutely hate going to the pharmacy and waiting in line with lots of other sick people to get your refills? There is a way to avoid all of that! Most pharmacies offer an online or phone service to place your refill order. It’s a quick few minutes at whatever time is convenient for you, and then they mail them directly to you! No driving to the pharmacy, no finding parking, no lines to wait it, no germ-infested transactions. This is truly the way to go! You just have to be on top of it to order with enough time to have them mailed out.


And continuing with the health to do’s, when you need to talk to a doctor, you may want to try the new concept of “phone appointments.” Now this may not be available by all caregivers, but I do know that Kaiser Permanente offers this. It is a fantastic service! They schedule a time for the call with either your doctor or a nurse practitioner. They are always right on time when they call you. And then, they don’t even charge for that “doctor visit!” Can’t ask for more than that!


Still on the medication topic, do you have some pills that you have to take every day? Do you just go through bottle by bottle, one by one each morning or evening to take them? That can be tiresome and takes quite a bit of time to open each, dole them out, etc. I like to use a weekly pill box (with the days of the week on it). And then each Sunday I fill them up for the week. It takes away tons of daily effort. So then, each morning when I’m usually trying to get out of the house to work or a meeting, all I do is open that day and all my meds are right there! One easy step that saves time.


Doesn’t it seem like there is always a birthday of a friend or family member? Rather than going to buy each card as the birthday comes up, why not buy cards for the birthdays or events for like the next 3 months? That way, it takes one visit to the store, not 3 or 4. And then you don’t have to remember to pick up a card before the next event. At the same time, I pick up wrapping paper for all of them too! When you can group the tasks, you will be so much more efficient!


Whenever there is a festival or art fair, I make it a point to go and buy most of my gifts for the next 6 months. That way, I have them ahead of time which takes away the worry and panic of trying to find a good gift at the last minute. Also the goodies I find are usually unique and artistic, like a beautiful necklace or earrings, etc. something artsy and fun.


And of course, I’m a huge fan of online shopping. Yes, I once loved the mall stroll. Going shopping for the day, browsing through stores. But, with the fabulous invention of online shopping, my shopping has become so much more efficient! No more circling the mall parking lot in search of a parking spot. No more traffic headaches. No more trying to find an attendant and then a cashier. I honestly go months and months without ever stepping into a mall or physical store.


And my last efficiency tip for maximum productivity is about my travel cosmetic bag. I always keep it stocked with most of my essentials in travel size. So, my face cleanser, deodorant, creams, toothbrush, toothpaste, pain relievers, hair essentials, bandaids, contact lenses…etc. that way, when I am packing to go overnight or on an extended trip, I just have a few items to add. This makes it so much easier. And for the rest of the items I need, I use a handy packing checklist. No more worrying if I have forgotten something!


So girlfriends, make great use of your time, because time is the one thing we never seem to have enough of. Treasure and relish the time doing what you love and being with who you love… and get downright efficient about doing all the other stuff.



Is Entrepreneurship Right For You?

Have you been contemplating starting your own gig? Are you looking to be your own boss?


There are so many upsides to being an entrepreneur. You get to set your own schedule, when to work, how to work, and where to work.  This allows you to set up a remote career if you choose. What exactly is a remote career? It is the ability to work from anywhere you want. You could be sitting on a beach with your laptop—and there you go! There is incredible freedom when it comes to entrepreneurship, since you can create your “office” in basically any setting. For those that want to travel, this can be a much appreciated perk of being an entrepreneur. Imagine sitting in a European café handling your biz remotely. Nice huh?


I actually started my architectural business while raising my kids. The flexibility of my schedule as an entrepreneur was a huge plus so that I could be the one raising my kids as it allowed me to coordinate time to be at all their events and activities. There is something to be said about the freedom that owning your own business brings. You can literally create it in the way that suits you best.


Another perk of the “be your own boss biz” is the room for financial growth. There is immense financial opportunity since the sky is the limit. There truly is no cap to the amount of money you could potentially make. Since you are the captain of your own ship, you can decide how to navigate it, what course to set, and the speed you want to take to get there. On the other hand,  as an employee you are typically paid a set amount, and that is your cap.  Working harder does not guarantee that you will make more as an employee. Unless your work is commission-based, you are more than likely capped at your salary.  This benefit can also be a double-edged sword, but we will get to that later.


As your own boss, you also don’t really have to answer to anybody else. That can be tremendously liberating. That feeling that you could potentially be fired or reprimanded is GONE! And, you really are in charge of your own career destiny. There is an overwhelming feeling of ownership and pride that comes with being an entrepreneur that is not easy to find as an employee. Feeling that pride in a job well done may be hard to come by as an employee. Yes, you may be able  to feel that on a project you are working on, or the part that you worked on and can take credit for; but you rarely get to feel pride in the entire production, outcome, or process. As an entrepreneur, you connect so much more deeply with your work as it basically has your name on it. That feeling of pride in what you build is rewarding beyond measure.


Running your own business definitely gives you the opportunity to follow your dream. You create the vision for your career, and you create the business to achieve it. As an employee, you are typically following your boss’ dream. You may be fully supportive of it, and you may be 100% aligned with the vision your boss has set, but there is nothing like charging after your very own dream. That can be exhilarating.


But…there is a downside to consider. And I would be remiss if I didn’t point those out too. In 2015, studies show that only about 5% of the working population are entrepreneurs. That number has gone up to approximately 7% in 2017.  With such a low percentage, there must be some serious downsides or everybody would jump on board the entrepreneur train. Let’s take a look at some of the negatives to running your own company.


One of the biggest has to do with money. Here is the double-edged sword I mentioned earlier. As an entrepreneur, you are not guaranteed a steady paycheck which can be stressful. Counting on a regular paycheck becomes a thing of the past when you make the decision to go it alone. And for many new businesses, financial stability takes a while to achieve. Studies have shown that it typically takes a new business three years to reach a profit.  And studies indicate that first time entrepreneurs only have an 18% chance of succeeding. Yikes!


Given those statistics, entrepreneurship can be a risky proposition which many people cannot stomach. You must have the stamina to undertake starting a business, since it will not reach profitability overnight. It will take lots of grueling hours, a whole lot of faith in it and your abilities, and the motivation and drive to sustain you.


Entrepreneurs can also find it difficult to maintain a good work-life balance since you are not really clocking in and out of your work. Most employees apply themselves at work during their work hours, and then can separate themselves from it, leave the office, and enjoy their personal lives. For entrepreneurs this separation becomes a bit blurred. Whether you find it difficult to break away from work or if it stays on your mind well after “office hours,” it can be a struggle to create a healthy balance that your family would appreciate. While many people think that you can work less hours as an entrepreneur, it is completely the opposite. Typically entrepreneurs work much longer hours, with an ever-increasing list of duties. You will have to take on administrative tasks that may not have been a part of your job as an employee, and you now also have the task of managing employees which can be difficult at times.


Another downside to being an entrepreneur is that it can be lonely up there. While it sounds exciting to “have it all,” it can be a scary and lonely place when you are the one fully responsible for your company’s success or failure. The stress associated with this responsibility can be a tough one to control or manage.


So now that we’ve covered the ups and downs of the “be your own boss gig” do you feel that it is something you want to try? Or have I scared you away?


I can speak from experience that while the challenges as an entrepreneur have been great, the rewards have been even greater. Mark Twain says it well…


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

~Mark Twain


If you are ready to embark on entrepreneurship, check out the YouTube for how to start your own gig here….


And if you are wondering if you have the personality to go on your own, check out this podcast….

And remember to “like” either one if you find it helpful!


Until next time—

Stay inspired